Jealousy

So me and my mom were talking about my boyfriend. I jokingly said to her that "he is your son in-law" and she then asked me, if I was 100% certain that he's "The One". I said yes. But then she just like you know, say the usual thing to assure me, like most mother's would. She just like said that since he's very easily to get jealous (referring to his jealousy over my guy BFF, R), he might you know, cause major conflict when we're living together. Like he'd be guarding me and acting very very over protective etc. And it would be like as if I have no freedom. And whether or not I'll be able to put up with it for the rest of my life.  


She says, if he got over the 'R issue', there will still be other guys, going in and out of my life. And obviously he's going to get jealous at some point if I get close to another guy. So it'll just be a cycle. 


When I think about it, it's kind of true. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love K to death!!! But he does have an issue with some of the guys that I hang out with and all. Right now, it's my guy BFF, R. And he's always sounding very upset or just unhappy whenever his name is mentioned. He always over-thinks whenever I talk to my BFF or text him etc. He keeps thinking that I'll cheat on him with my BFF. Which is obviously not true. Because I'm clearly not attracted to my BFF that way. Although my BFF does like me more than a friend. Which is probably why, my boyfriend has gone even more protective over me, whenever R is around or when I'm talking to him or about him.


I don't want to be stuck in a "psycho" relationship. Like where someone controls what you do, when you're coming home, why are you going out, who are you going out with etc. It gets really annoying and frustrating. I mean, K really needs to learn to trust me. He keeps saying he does, but it just doesn't feel like he does trust me, whenever I bring up R's name :/


He's really a great boyfriend, but he's just got that so-called 'flaw' and it does bother me a lot. I mean a little bit of jealousy is totally OK, but like just OVER the top kind of jealousy is totally unnecessary. I love him to death and want to be with him forever, cos he is definitely the "perfect" guy for me. He treats me well and all. Just that jealousy part, gets to me at times when it happens. I really do hope that he will learn to trust me more, when it comes to me hanging out with guy friends in future. I want him to loosen up a bit and not having to want to go out with me all the time if I'm going to be with guys etc.