Too Good To Be True

My little sister and her boyfriend, B is starting to have some problems. Not that he notices that or anything. But yeah. She has been quite unhappy lately coz of him. And I feel really sorry for her :(

She says that he doesn't put her in first place and that he always put his uni work and his other extra-curriculum activities before her. She said she understands that his school work is important but she doesn't feel that he needs to be so "paranoid" about his extra-curriculum activity(s). He never seems to make time for her. But instead, he only talks/texts/calls her when he has nothing to do. Like you could say that she is a "time-filler" for him.

He doesn't realize this, is maybe because it's his first relationship, he doesn't watch anything that has got to do with love in it. He is a gamer, so love isn't in that equation. He doesn't know how to show his love and care for that 'someone special'. I understand that is hard.

She just wants him to make more time for her, and like me, wants him to text her back ASAP. But it seems like it's even harder for him. He says that he is 'trying to be a good boyfriend' but my sis really does not seem to feel it. Even I, cannot feel it.

Today, she even asked/told me that she is considering about breaking up with him and whether she should or not. I was totally shocked. But in a way, you could see that day coming. Even though she loves him a lot. And he probably does too. But he just doesn't know how to show it. When she sees me and my boyfriend together, or sees/knows the things that my boyfriend does for or to me, she feels jealous that her boyfriend doesn't do that kind for stuff for her. She says that my boyfriend even puts me into his future [regardless of whether we do get married and all[, but with B, he doesn't even say a thing or mention a thing about it. Not even a bit of hope that he thinks about her or having her in his future. She feels really sad about that.

I asked her, she really should think about this. Coz not only is she not able to see him until end of November [he studies in Auckland University] and breaking up over the phone is totally wrong. And people will obviously think she is plain mean. And asked her if she would feel jealous or totally unhappy if she saw him with another girl. She said, "Yeah. Of course. But I'll get over it." I was like, "It's not the matter of being able to get over it. Coz obviously you'll get over it. It's just the pain you'd get when you see/hear that he's got a new girlfriend." She was like, "Hmm..."

So yeah. She ended up bursting into tears when she explained to me how she felt and all. I was like, 'Aww!' But there was nothing I could do. Besides telling her to tell him exactly how she felt and what she wanted/did not want and what she like/did not like about him. I mean, at least, in the end, when things really go downhill, she can at least say that she has already told him or hinted towards him the things she wanted from him.

When I think about myself in my own situation. I think about how happy me and K are together. And sometimes I think that my FIRST real, proper relationship, has turned out to be this good. I have a loving, caring and considerate boyfriend. Who puts me in first place and does sweet and romantic things for me and at the same time, does nice things for my siblings and parents. He's just a perfect boyfriend [minus the height haha] but really, he is the most greatest boyfriend any girl could have. I couldn't ask for more [besides getting him to text me back faster].

I think about whether our relationship can really last long, not that I don't want it to. But isn't this kind of "dream" like, too good to be true?? Like, my older sister, she broke up with her boyfriend #1 and I'm guessing [but hope not] that my younger sister will break up with her first real boyfriend too... I mean, it seems like I'm the only one -right now. With a proper, happy, 'too good to be true' relationship. Like, my relationship seems like it could last until I die. But can it really?

I know that I don't have to follow their "foot steps" in love and all. But this is just seriously too hard to believe when you think about it, right? And from the start of us [me & K] meeting as friends, I have NEVER thought about him becoming my boyfriend. I had NEVER considered him to be my boyfriend and that I'd end up being together with him. But in the end, here I am, his girlfriend.

It's amazing what fate brings to us. I really do hope that my relationship with K last forever until the day we both die. I love him a lot and I think about him and put him into my future as well. I don't want it to end.............